How Women Can Help Their Self Esteem And Relationships

Women suffer from low self esteem every day. It starts in our pre-teen years and goes right through menopause. We have a poor image of ourselves and it can lead to depression, eating disorders, and can effect our daily routine. We don't realize what our full potential is, and this can inadvertently hinder on our relationships, and quality of life.

There are many reasons why we feel this way. The one that strikes me the most is the media. The media, in this day in age, wants every women to be thin, big breasted, and successful. The media, I think needs to take a closer look at us. We come in all shapes and sizes, and no matter what we do, we are successful. We take the time to raise our children the best that we can, and we work hard for our families. There is a saying and it goes "A woman's work is never done", and that is true to the point. No matter what we ave going on, we are always moving in some sort of direction, taking care of things that need to be done.

A few other reasons for the low self esteem are, abuse of some kind, peer ridicule, and rejection. These are in itself very tough. When a woman is abused, whether it be physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally, or sexually, it leaves us feeling scared and we hold back from people. We put ourselves under what can be called a microscope, and compare ourselves with others. Women can hold onto the low self esteem from this for many, many years until she realizes that she needs to get some kind of help.

Getting help, in any situation, is all a mind set that you have to have. If you want the help, and can admit you need the help, that ultimately is the first step to recovery. Getting help for this recovery can take a while, but in the end it will all be worth it because you will feel better about yourself as a person, how you look, and how you see others. It will also show you in time, what others see in you, and how they see you.

First and foremost in the recovery, you have to take time for you. You can spend the day by going to the spa, getting your hair done, or having a massage. This will relax you, and take all your cares away. You will feel like you are in a different world, where you and only you matter at the time. Focus on being you and not the "girl next door", because lets face it, you are you and she is her. No one, no matter how hard they try, can ever be like her.

Next, focus on the positive and not the negative. If family or friends upset you, or try to bring you down, take a step back and look at the whole picture. A lot of times, people in general will make fun of, or make people mad because they are insecure with in themselves. They don't know how to deal with the pressures of life, and for them to feel better, they have to "pick on" someone that is doing well. Once you realize this about people you are well on your way to getting better, and they will eventually see that nothing they do, or say will ultimately bother you.

The best thing that one can do, is to believe in them self, not let people bring them down. I was always told by someone, that I have great respect for, "Smile and walk away because those that have to be mean and nasty to others will see that it won't bother you and they will eventually give up trying." Once some one knows that they are getting to you, they have the upper hand. That in itself will bring your self esteem down, because you feel that you are no longer in control of who you are and what you do.

So, in the end ladies, take time for your self, rejuvenate, and once again be happy with who you are. The sun always shines on the one with the biggest smile, and trust me, you will be more confident in your self, love your self more, and you will walk with your head held high, and no one will be able to bring you down.